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Mary I completely understand how you feel. You would think asking the parents to settle their kids down would be the right move here, but it's not. The parents obviously don't care about you or their surroundings. A lot of parents get very defensive if a stranger tells them how to control their kids. Plus, even if you did let the parents know, they obviously don't discipline their kids so the problem won't get solved. Your best bet is to let the server know and see if you can be seated somewhere else.
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I think we have all been there, some of us on both sides of the situation. I don't think saying something to the parents would alleviate the situation. They know how their kids are acting and either don't care or don't know how to control them. I would suggest asking the staff to find you a quieter table if it's that bothersome, and taking some preventative measures next time, such as requesting not to be sat by a table with children, not going to specific restaurants on kids night, or going to a bit of a classier restaurant that don't generally cater to families with small children.
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Q: I am dating this guy who has a lot of money. He wants to take me to these expensive restaurants but I always put it off because I am not comfortable in those kind of surroundings. I get confused with all of the silverware and the proper etiquette that goes along with these fancy restaurants. How should I go about confronting him on this without him thinking I am a complete idiot?
Jack's Answer:
No need to confront him. The best advice I could give you is just be yourself. Don't be intimidated with your surroundings. Just relax and enjoy the company and the restaurant. If a guy is doing this to impress then you will not have to do a thing. If he is a gentlemen he will lead you through the process. He will choose the wine. If the menu is in another language let him know what you like and let him order for you. A couple things that will help you: The servers pull your chair out and push it in for you. They will unfold your napkin and lay it in your lap. It depends on the service and the restaurant where your silverware will be placed. For general rule of thumb you start with the outer silverware first, and work your way in for each course. If it is a French restaurant expect to get a sorbet before your main course, and a salad after the main course. If he does order something that you're not familiar with, let him prepare it for you, or you can watch and see how he prepares and eats it. This should be fun and exciting and you should enjoy every minute.
Jill's Answer:
I can see how that would be intimidating. If he's dating you, he likes you enough to want to be with you, whether you know the appropriate silverware to use or not. Accept his offer, and when you are seated at the restaurant, tell him it's a lovely place but you aren't very familiar with the proper utensils to use and when, and can he explain it to you. Guys love helping a damsal in distress. It can be something you laugh about later.
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Q:Yesterday I was seated at a booth in a restaurant and the booth behind us had a couple of rowdy kids who kept disrupting our meal. Everything from being loud and whiny, temper tantrums and kicking our booth. Should I have said something to the parents? I found it extremely rude. By Mary
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